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Dealing with judgement from family, friends, and just those kinds of people
I am 7 weeks new here and I practice a vegetarian diet with no animal products at all but will have fish on occassion.
Its holiday time and this only means shite for me.
I had an up setting event with my morther in law and I am wonder how you response to the judgement, criticism comments from the meat, sugar, fat eating machines? I dont feel like I have a conversion over dinner why I choose to eat this way and if I am getting the right amount of protein, this and that....can a gril just live in peace. This is a lifestyle I have choose not a quick fix diet. Repectfully some questions are turely of interest and some people are only wishing they could do this, others are judging and have great concern....I dont care if you eat the last bit of meat off a chicken bone ( barf) or look at you and place judgement so please DON'T do it too me.
Times have change and its time the old folks got on board.
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Permalink Reply by Brad M on
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95% of people who ask, are doing so to argue. I don't know why they do this but they do it. I simply say it's "a decision I made" and I leave it at that. I don't answer questions or respond to criticism anymore due to the vile nature of most people. It doesn't matter if it's vegan, scuba diving or learning to play the saxophone - everyone has a reason why they don't do it and their way is better than yours and you are foolish for doing it.
Maybe it's the toxicity in my life, but as I say - I don't play the game anymore. I am Vegan, that's all there is to the conversation.
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Permalink Reply by 4_lifepath on -
We all have a right to be assertive and just say "no" and leave it at that. I have found that apprach isn't conducive to productive relationships. I personally, when hearing the onset of questions will genuinnly say " it sounds like you are concerned about my health, is that why you are asking these questions?" It changes the dynamics to the root of the questions vs. the questions that lead you to assumptions of a passive aggressive agenda. Concern for your wellbeing vs. assuming your ability as a capable person is being undermined, is probably a better way to frame her agenda because she is your husband's mother and the potential grandmother to your children. so your health should be of concern to her. ......don't you think ?
If she is concerned, share Brendan's book with her ..... show her things you've learned that have brought you to the conclusions to change your life as you have .....it isn't mainstream, and maybe this is one more step to spreading what we already know. We all know that the medical community do their best, but it is a money making slave to politics ....where I am in Canada anyways ...Sign her up for the Thrive 30 challenge. If you think the worst about her intentions, your relationship with her will feel opressive, but if you get past the assumptions and get to the core, you may just find an ally. If not, at least you planted a seed.In the end, she doesn't have to agree with your choices and that's OK too.
If sarcasm or minimizing occurs, then I would be addressing that seperately, but with a gentle tone...don't do it if your pissed off. .. ...those are my humble offerings.
I really hope this helps you
Much love,
Debbie
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Permalink Reply by 4_lifepath on
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Thank you Erin ... (((Hugs)))
Deb 8-)
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Permalink Reply by Krissdee on -
Thank you for your feedback - vega pals
4_lifepath said:We all have a right to be assertive and just say "no" and leave it at that. I have found that apprach isn't conducive to productive relationships. I personally, when hearing the onset of questions will genuinnly say " it sounds like you are concerned about my health, is that why you are asking these questions?" It changes the dynamics to the root of the questions vs. the questions that lead you to assumptions of a passive aggressive agenda. Concern for your wellbeing vs. assuming your ability as a capable person is being undermined, is probably a better way to frame her agenda because she is your husband's mother and the potential grandmother to your children. so your health should be of concern to her. ......don't you think ?
If she is concerned, share Brendan's book with her ..... show her things you've learned that have brought you to the conclusions to change your life as you have .....it isn't mainstream, and maybe this is one more step to spreading what we already know. We all know that the medical community do their best, but it is a money making slave to politics ....where I am in Canada anyways ...Sign her up for the Thrive 30 challenge. If you think the worst about her intentions, your relationship with her will feel opressive, but if you get past the assumptions and get to the core, you may just find an ally. If not, at least you planted a seed.In the end, she doesn't have to agree with your choices and that's OK too.
If sarcasm or minimizing occurs, then I would be addressing that seperately, but with a gentle tone...don't do it if your pissed off. .. ...those are my humble offerings.
I really hope this helps you
Much love,
Debbie
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Permalink Reply by 4_lifepath on
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My pleasure (((Hugs)))
Deb 8-)
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Permalink Reply by James Moore on -
It's crazy, but my family and friends look at me like I have 2 heads when I tell them that I'm Vegan. Especially, since I was once a meat, dairy, and sugar addict just like them. But hey, I don't mind being the odd ball.
I would suggest that you embrace the criticism, and do it with class. They won't have no choice but to respect your decision. In fact, I believe they'll be inspired by your decision to stand by your convictions to give your body the best nutrition ever. I admire you myself :)
The game changer for my family and there silly comments about my healthy lifestyle is when I lost 70lbs in 4 months. This was before I became a Vegan.
So eat well and be blessed.
James,
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